Carry your cross, you make your bed you lie in it and don’t hang out your dirty laundry are the idioms I heard over and over again when I was growing. This is what I heard up when I tried to talk to my mother about being wronged.

In other words if I ever complained about something one of those idioms were given to me as the solution.  Did I know as a child what they meant? Nope, I could only make up my own definitions, so here goes…

Nancy’s definition for “Carry your Cross”.  Life is tough and no one really cares about your problems so keep them to yourself.

Nancy’s definition for “You make your bed you lie in it”. You made your choices and you live with them if you are not happy it’s your problem - you made the choice.

Nancy’s definition for “Don’t hang out your dirty laundry”. Keep your secrets. No one should know about any problems that may embarrass you or your family.