About a month after we were married I invited my youngest sister over for dinner one night. My youngest sister is 6 years younger than I am, so she was 13 years old.

I had spent the day cooking. I made my own tomato sauce; I made meatballs, a salad and had purchased a dessert. I was 19 and never really cooked and I thought I did a really good job and was feeling good about the meal I made.

I felt good until my ex-husband tasted the meal and promptly declared it disgusting and threw the entire meal in the garbage. Yes he threw it all out to my little sister’s shock and my horror. I was told I was the worst cook ever and the next time I cooked I needed to be sure it was a meal worth eating.

I did cook over the years of my marriage. In fact, I worked full time while he most of his time unemployed. I cooked, I cleaned and he gambled.